The Energy of Others
There are many people on this planet, and when a person is drawn into another person, the reasons are personal. They may have a deep need or desire to be close to another, however that other person may not have the same draw to be close to them. This can be frustrating to the person who is interested, attracted, feeling desire or need when they may not be receiving much feedback, a response or the same reaction to the person they are seeking. They may make it their entire focus, or even feel as though they are making the most effort to connect to the other, and feel left drained, depleted or hurt that their efforts are making no impact on the response of the other. It can be sad when someone spends their entire life wasting away into another person that is really not giving them anything in return, or even a short period of their life. Many times they can be left feeling resentful or used, but the person that is at the other end, may feel no emotion, or very different emotion to the experience as a whole.
Often the person doing the seeking, has a specific goal in mind, and on a spiritual level, they are wanting something that they may be feeling that this other person has. The other person may have more confidence than them, or be happier, or more grounded and centered, or perhaps more financially abundant. Or perhaps this other person has a certain quality that the seeker is feeling is missing in them, or maybe even a gift they aren’t even using, but the seeker wishes they had it themselves because it would make a difference in their own life, goals, or dreams. The recipient of this seeker is only responding to the person doing the seeking; whether that is a response the seeker likes or not, they have a response. And their response is also very personal. No one person can make another do anything they want them to, whether they like it or not; everyone has a choice.
The seeker feels the energy of the person they are pursuing, and like a sponge, their desire is to in a sense, consume this energy they are attracted to, and they feel fed by it. However, this could actually make the person being pursued very uncomfortable. They never agreed to giving to this person anything, nor do they have to if they choose not to, and energetically, when a seeker pursues too often, too intensely, and makes the other person feel needed, it can often push them away, or create a dynamic where they don’t allow themselves to get too close to this person. And, they may have kindness and care about the other persons feelings, but they don’t feel as though it is their responsibility to make them happy, and in truth, it is not. However, they may still care, even if they choose to create more space.
The person seeking must actually find this energy in themselves, or find where in their self they are lacking, and remove what is in the way of bringing in the energy they really desire. The easy solution is to find the source of this energy in others, but when it creates imbalance in a relationship, or a need that takes them away from them-self, it is best to find it within, or if one cannot find it within and needs to go on a journey of self discovery to get there, the second best option is not to spread yourself too thin and put all your desires into one person, or one thing. When you finally have achieved the energy you desire, those you care for will respect you more for not having pressured them so much into giving you something that they never agreed to giving you in the first place; unless of course, an agreement had been made, then the relationship can be left intact, and perhaps a little imbalanced, but with agreement, you may get those energy desires you really want.